حياة السلف بين القول والعمل

Kindness to parents and maintaining kinship ties: Abu Ishaq al-Fazari said to Abdullah ibn al-Mubarak, may God have mercy on them both: “O Abu Abd al-Rahman, there was a man among our companions who had gathered more knowledge than you and I have gathered. He was on his deathbed, and I prompted him to say the testimony of faith. I said to him: ‘Say: There is no god but God.’ He said: ‘I cannot say it!’ Yet when addressed about other things, he could speak. He said that twice, and he continued in that manner until he died! He said: So I asked about him, and it was said: He was disobedient to his parents, so I thought that he was deprived of the word of sincerity because of his disobedience to his parents.” [Ibn Abi al-Dunya’s Encyclopedia 5/360].

Kindness to parents and maintaining kinship ties: On the authority of Al-Ashja’i, he said: Mis‘ar’s mother asked him, may Allah have mercy on him, for water during one of the nights, so he went and brought a water skin, but he found that she had fallen asleep, so he held the drink in his hands until morning. [Al-Hilya (its abridgment) 2/423].

Kindness to parents and maintaining kinship ties: On the authority of Abu Bakr bin Ayyash, he said: Sometimes I was sitting with Mansur bin Mu’tamir, may God have mercy on him, in his house, when his mother, who was harsh and rough, would shout at him, saying: O Mansur, Ibn Hubayra wants you to be a judge, and you refuse him?! And he would have his beard on his chest, not raising his gaze to her. [Al-Hilya (its abridgment) 2/136].

Kindness to parents and maintaining kinship ties: Ibn Muhayriz, may God have mercy on him, said: Whoever walks in front of his father has disobeyed him, unless he walks to remove harm from his path. And whoever calls his father by his name or nickname has disobeyed him, unless he says: O my father. [Al-Hilya (its abridgment) 2/168].

Kindness to parents and maintaining kinship ties: On the authority of Ghassan bin Al-Mufaddal, a man from Quraysh told me: Amr bin Ubaid used to come to Kahmas, may God have mercy on him, greet him, and sit with him and his companions. His mother said to him: I see this man and his companions and I dislike them and I do not like them, so do not sit with them. He said: So Amr and his companions came to him and he looked down at them and said: My mother has disliked you and your companions, so do not come to me. [Al-Hilya (its abridgment) 2/319].